Loans of love: how to borrow from family and friends

Whether it's lending a tenner to a friend at the pub or helping a close relation with the deposit needed to buy their first home, loans between family members and friends are extremely common.

Unfortunately, so are disagreements about them.

Unpaid or disputed loans can negatively affect relationships and, sometimes, even sever ties forever.

Yet we keep making them. In November 2010, More Than researchers estimated that the total amount of unpaid loans between family members and friends in the UK is more than £44.6bn.

According to Scottish Widows research from March 2012, the number of these loans has increased 31% in the past five years.

Clearly not all loans between friends or family members end badly.

Done the right way, an informal loan is a good deed: enabling a loved one to resolve a financial worry or fulfil a dream like a first home without the lender suffering financial loss.

So what is the right way? Here are three things we think any informal borrower or lender should consider.

1. Setting boundaries

Clear and open communication between lender and borrower will help ensure that the transaction doesn't go wrong at any point during the loan period.

Assumptions can be deadly: the lender might assume the money will be paid back quickly while the borrower thinks the money is, for all intents and purposes, a gift.

What to think about

Here are just a few things it's worth thinking and talking about before borrowing.

Borrower:

Lender:

Making the informal formal

If the loan is going to be treated as seriously as that from a bank, more than talk might be helpful.

A loan agreement will get the terms, time frame and interest of the loan down in writing.

If a repayment plan is specified, the document would also outline what happens if the borrower defaults on a payment.

Provisions could include a fixed penalty or an interest charge. Interest rates are often set so that the lender does not lose money over the period of the loan.

Agreements can also cover both parties in the event of all potential eventualities, however unlikely or disagreeable. For example, it covers what will happen if either the lender or borrower dies.

You can find a template loan agreement here.

If in doubt, it can be worth obtaining advice from a legal advice service. Some free advice centres, such as Citizens Advice Bureaux or community law centres, may be able to offer pointers.

A solicitor can help create a document, such as a promissory note, as full as any standard credit agreement and fully actionable under law but it's likely to cost you.

2. Tax implications

It's also worth noting that there are tax implications for informal lending.

If a lender receives any interest on a loan, then they must inform HM Revenue & Customs, as this amount may be liable for taxation as income.

Lenders must declare the received interest on their self assessment form as a taxable form of income. Loans that are interest free do not require the recipient or the benefactor to pay tax.

If a sum of money is given as a gift, rather than a loan, then it is free from inheritance tax. This is only true if the donor lives seven years after the payment is made.

Exceptions to this rule are that a person can give up to £3,000 per year without paying tax and up to £5,000 if the money is given as a wedding gift by a parent to their child.

3. Alternatives to family loans

All in all, the potential for future misunderstandings and the legalese required means that borrowing from a friend or family member can sometimes be more trouble than its worth.

If, as much research on this topic suggests, you are considering an informal loan because you can't access good quality deals, or any deals, in the formal borrowing sector it may be worth looking more deeply into the market.

Peer to peer lending sites, such as Zopa, allow those with money to lend to those seeking to borrow, for example.

Lenders set their own interest rates and choose how long they are willing to lend their money for.

To reduce the risk of defaults, borrowers are subject to stringent checks. As a result, more than 75% of those who apply are turned away although social lending still has risks.

Credit unions may also be able to help.

In these cooperatives whose members have something in common, such as a place of work or a residential area, members pool their savings, allowing individuals to benefit from low interest loans.

See our guide for more information and note that these institutions have risks of their own.

How much are we borrowing informally?

Figures suggest that the economic downturn has resulted in ever more loans being made between friends and family members.

The More Than research we mentioned above found that the average Briton lends £2,250 informally over the course of their lives.

In August 2011, an Aviva survey found that 63% of people say they've seen an increase in informal lending.

Scottish Widows research agrees. A report of theirs from August 2012 claimed that the number of parents lending to their children has increased by 31% in the past five years.

15% of those questioned by Aviva even said that they regularly turn to other family members for money rather than to traditional sources such as overdrafts, bank loans and mortgages.

As we've seen above, however, an increase in informal lending is likely to lead to an increase in legal wrangles between people who never should have ended up in court.

In December 2011, a Small Claims Court ordered a woman to repay £228,000 she'd made from the sale of an antique Chinese vase.

A vase might not be a loan in the traditional sense but the case had all the hallmarks of an informal borrowing dispute: the case was bought by the woman's ex boyfriend's mother (got that?) who said she had only lent the vase out; the woman argued it was a gift.

Comments

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10 May 2013
stewart

I own a loan made to a distant relative that came to me from my father (effectively I bailed him out, because the loan was already delinquent). The balance is about £25,000 and accruing interest. It has a second charge on her house and she is a higher rate tax payer, but she probably has negative equity.

Rather annoying in that you could add a nought to her income compared to mine.

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